First things first: Thank you SO. FUCKING. MUCH. for all the love and support despite the fact that I’ve been sort of checked out through this whole thing. And a huge, ginormous thank you to SheVibe, Tantus, Lovehoney, Pink, and Gun Oil for supplying the prizes so I could make a crazy Internet gesture for my ailing man.
Second things second: M is getting better.
There are still some scary moments. Like when his foot went numb. And the way his back swells up if he sits too much or walks too long.
But we spent a whole week fucking until 3am every night (which, surprisingly, didn’t make his back swell up, but did cause him a little bit of pain), and we’ve done SO MUCH talking, and we’ve connected on levels we haven’t in a while, and I finally stopped biting back the emotional pain I’ve been dealing with from watching him go through this and started talking to him about it. This ordeal–though insanely painful and still incredibly stressful–has been good for us. How fucked up is that?
Third things third: So you guys had some questions. We had some answers. Here they are:
Questions For Rayne
I’m trying to find a good and suitable anal lube. Very new to all of it. Do you have any suggestions or recommendations??
Spunk Pink is what I’m using most, these days. Super slippery. No glycerine. Lasts a good long time. Doesn’t react with any of my silicone toys. I luffs it.
What is your favorite anal activity of all time?
Of all time? Can I pick just this one anal play session we had? Cuz I dunno that I have a favorite activity of all time. But that one play session…it was the first time I’d ever literally fucked my ass with a dildo for M. I propped myself up with the Liberator Wedge/Ramp Combo in a position that allowed me to comfortably sit and fuck myself, and just went to town. He loved it. I loved it. It was awesome.
Questions For M
Rayne’s mentioned going into sub space in a couple of different posts. I was wondering, do you enter a corresponding “dom space” during scenes? If so, what does it feel like? If not, why?
I’ll have M answer this in the coming days. Maybe in a post.
What is your favorite anal activity of all time?
I said, “It’s safe to say your favorite anal activity is penetrating me, right?”
He said, “Or having your ass plugged, I guess.”
I said, “It says, ‘favorite anal activity of all time!'”
He said, “Whatever.”
So there you have it.
Questions About Kink
These questions will be made into posts in the near future.
Are the words “kink” and “fetish” interchangeable? What are the differences and distinctions between the two words?
Is there a psychological reason to enjoy breath play?
How does one safely choke themselves? I really love that feeling where I am about to pass out, but I am really afraid of taking it too far by tying a knot onto something and seriously hurting myself.
On one site that I am on, they always talk about being a Switch. Can you please enlighten us on your point of view?
Can I use the term “top” in a BDSM context? Is it appropriating part of gay men’s terminology? Is it a suitable substitute for “Dom”?
The Prizes
First Prize: The New We-Vibe Touch provided by SheVibe.com!
Second Prize: The New Tantus Amsterdam Small provided by Tantus, Inc.!
Third Prize: The Lovehoney Beaded Sensual Glass Butt Plug provided by Lovehoney.com!
Honorable Mention: Gun Oil (silicone based, 2 oz), Gun Oil H2O (2 oz), Pink Water (3.3 oz), Pink Silicone (3.3 oz) provided by Pink and Gun Oil!
Social Media Prizes (2): A sample pack containing the following: Gun Oil High Caliber Male Performance Enhancement (dietary supplement), Gun Oil (silicone based), Gun Oil H2O, Gun Oil Force Recon (hybrid), Gun Oil Gel (water based), Gun Oil Loaded (water based cream), Gun Oil Stroke 29 (water based cream), Pink Elevate Female Performance Enhancement (dietary supplement), Pink Unity (hybrid), Pink Indulgence Crème, Pink Frolic (specialty toy lube), Hot Pink (warming lube), Pink Water, Pink Silicone, and a coupon for 30% off your next order at GetLube.com provided by Pink and Gun Oil!
Disclaimer: Use products at your own risk. Read all ingredients and instructions provided before use. Giveaway sponsors (SheVibe.com, Tantus, Lovehoney, Pink, Gun Oil) are not liable for any adverse reactions due to allergies or misuse of the products. Giveaway hosts (Melen and Rayne) are not liable for any adverse reactions due to use of these products.
How To Enter
There are a few ways to enter, the first being agreeing to the terms. That one is mandatory, and can be found in the widget below. Everyone must complete that entry to be considered, but that is the only entry that must be completed.
If you’d like to win First, Second, or Third Prize, or Honorable Mention, you must complete a task for me. It’s super simple. Ready?
This thing with M has been going on since September of last year. I’m pretty good at cheering my man up, but I’m running out of ideas that won’t hurt his back. My most recent attempt was buying smiley-faced french fries to have with dinner some night this week. Yeah…they’re getting really lame. So! Your mission, should you choose to accept it (and if you don’t, your only prize option is a sample pack of lubes and performance enhancement pills), is to throw out ideas for cheering M up and keeping him positive while he heals from spinal surgery. These things cannot involve sex (because cumming hurts…duh?), touching M’s back, or too much bending or twisting on M’s part. You can submit these entries via the comments below, or in an email to rayne(at)insatiabledesire[dot]com. Be sure to mark the “Cheer M Up!” entry option in the Rafflecopter widget below. You can make one suggestion each day of the contest.
The third and final way to enter is to share the shit out of this giveaway so other people have the chance to enter. Sharing is caring, after all. One winner will be chosen randomly via the Rafflecopter widget. The other will be whoever has the most social media entries. Each of the winners of these prizes will receive a giant sample pack of lube (listed above).
And now…without further ado…
The Winners
Random Winner: @krissynovacaine
Most Shared: @RynJ21 edged out @PeteJames12 by just 30 shares.
Honorable Mention: @Kindred29 – Each day he is recovering, write a brief note detailing what you will do together to celebrate his return to health.
Third Prize: @RynJ21 – Give him a bouquet of brightly colored pinwheels for a windy day. Very whimsical!
Second Prize: @insatiablytaken – http://www.ustream.tv/channel/iss-hdev-payload Watch the earth from space. Sun rises and sun sets happen several times a day. Completely gorgeous and there’s usually someone helpful on to tell you what part of earth you’re currently looking at.
First Prize: @PeteJames12 – On hot days when either of us are grumpy due to life’s stresses and or due to the heat, we cater to the inner child in us and have a squirt gun/water balloon fight in our backyard. When my lady is the one feeling like crap, I tend to let her bombard me with more water balloons just to make her feel better 
